It has been a wild and windy day in Plymouth Devon, today, and to make matters worse, I have had to cancel all my clients and take to my bed with a streaming cold.
The good news is that The Marriage Foundation’s November Newsletter arrived in my inbox, which made interesting reading. The Foundation engages in evidence-based research and campaigning to demonstrate the benefits of marriage. http://www.marriagefoundation.org.uk/Web/Default.aspx
I’m A Celebrity
Harry Benson’s very interesting article about celebrity marriages; was highlighted regarding some of the longest and shortest lasting of them. He quotes Sir Paul Coleridge on the subject,
“There is a disconnect between the nature of real long term relationships and the dramatized and apparently more exciting versions portrayed on screen or imagined for celebrities by the rest of us. This is surely exacerbated by huge, expensive fairy tale weddings attended by the icons of the day. All of us subconsciously want to believe that these beautiful people are living an idealised life which we can vicariously enjoy. Unfortunately all men and women, glamorous or not, are riddled with the same weaknesses and shortcomings which surface even quite soon after the excitement of the wedding has died down. Coming down to earth with a heavier than usual bump, must create added pressures. And material plenty, as they know only too well, does nothing to alleviate the stress except in the very short term.”
Families and Households 2012
The newsletter reported the key findings of the Families and Households 2012 report from the Office of National Statistics, including,
There are 2.5 million separated families in Great Britain, with about 300,000 families separating each year. More than 4 million children do not live with both their parents8.
“we shouldn’t allow false perceptions to obscure the truth that marriage is the choice and desire of most people.”
I have certainly picked up from my clients that many of them have the perception that it is best not to get married because it is likely to end in divorce and that it is better to cohabit. In fact this is a misperception. Other reports (Fractured Families) show that cohabiting couples are 3 times more likely to break down than married couples. Undoubtedly, the evidence indicates that children are more likely to fare much better in households with parents who are married.
Social Justice Outcomes Framework
The statistics set out in this Framework confirm that 2 out of 3 families are based around married couples., nevertheless only 45% of 15 year olds currently live with both birth parents.
I was very happy to read that a Key Indicator of the Framework is to increase the proportion of stable family relationships year on year. It is my belief that this is definitely the way forward. Stable marriages create stable families and communities. I shall be eagerly looking out to see how The Marriage Foundation supports this aim
I need another Lem-sip!
Live, Love, Laugh and Be Happy,